We ALL have the Judge!

Check out their:
Main focus,
Characteristics,
Thoughts,
Feelings,
The lies they tell you,
The impact they have on you and your behavior,
The reason they existed in the first place.

Judge

The only Saboteur we ALL have.
Main Focus: Looking for faults with self, others, and circumstances that lead to disappointment, anger, regret, guilt shame, and anxiety. The Judge activates the accomplice Saboteurs.

Characteristics: Self: taunts, mocks, ridicules self for past mistakes, insecurities, and limiting beliefs. Feeds off them.
Others: Focus on the negative aspects of others rather than appreciation. Compares self to others in a wide variety of circumstances, sometimes in all circumstances.
Circumstances: Sees the negative or bad side of all situations. Doesn't look for the gift, lesson, or opportunity.

Thoughts: What's wrong with me? Why are you so stupid? How can I find the negativity in this circumstance or situation?

Feelings: Lives in the negative emotions of guilt, shame, regret, and disappointment from constantly being badgered by the Judge.

Lies They Tell You: If I don't push you or tell it like it is you will become lazy and complacent. If I don't remind you of your mistakes, you will never learn anything and will probably repeat them. If I don't scare you about the future, you will not plan or work hard to prevent bad things from happening. If I don't judge others for you, you will not protect yourself and your self-interest. If I don't make you feel bad about the negative outcomes you will never change.

Impact on Self and Others: The Judge is the only saboteur we all have and the main one that activates all the Accomplice Saboteurs. The Judge is the origin of much of our anxiety, stress, and unhappiness. The Judge is usually the cause of relationship issues.

Original Survival Function: The Judge is good at being hyper-aware, exaggerating, and reacting from a negative place as a survival strategy. But taking this position the Judge is perceived as helping us reduce our chances of being surprised or harmed by unexpected dangers to our physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. The Judge is the universal Saboteur in all of us regardless of our life circumstances and regardless of the type of childhood we had.

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